So this post is going to be a bit different from my usual posts, as I don’t usually post anything which is related to healthy living or body image. When it comes to my body image I tend to be very reserved and shy out from conversations. This is something which surprises a lot of people, as I always look very confident and at ease. The truth I’ve never been very confident in my body and always felt weird next to everyone else because of my height and built. I am about 5,8 and that is pretty tall for a Maltese, here in Malta the average height for women is about 5,5, which makes me above the average. Apart from feeling huge around women, I felt huge around guys, so I used to wear little to no heels so I don’t look abnormal. Nowadays I am very happy in my height and love to wear heels and simply don’t care if anyone is shorter than me, no offence :P.
However something which has taken over my life has always been my weight. As a typical Maltese, we eat a lot, I remember my mum forcing me to eat everything that was on the plate, and if I didn’t I wouldn’t be rewarded because I was not a good girl, and apparently every child in Africa was dying of hunger because of me.
As a child, I was a pretty skinny, yet taller than more girls but still skinny. Everything changed until the age of 16, that was when my weight was starting to show, I was never huge but I was overweight. Yet I could hide all the fat pretty well, I still do. Thanks to my sisters, I learned to always look the best, it was always a way to hide what was really going on.
You must be thinking why am I telling you all this? Well recently I’ve been complemented on my appearance and that it shows I have improved drastically from when I started the blog. I did loose weight and I’ve become more active in my life. I also want to show you my human side for once that in the end we all have our struggles, it how we face them that makes us the person we are now.
Recently we are blessed (and cursed) with the information we are being given for free though internet, tv and social media. We are finally getting the right information about being healthy and about taking care of our bodies. I learned throught my life how my family has no idea how to live a healthy lifestyle and unfortunately for my parents it is too late for them to understand now. But I am young and I can learn and make better choices for my future.
Me 2 years ago at the start of my blog
I don’t want to give the wrong impression that I lost weight to look better or whatsoever. I believe everyone should love themselves in whatever shape or size they are. I know skinny women wishing they were fuller and fuller women wishing they were skinnier. Yet I believe everyone should be healthy and take care of their body. There are many out there, who are not healthy and are still skinny, it doesn’t show but it get’s them sick anyways. Then there are others like me who aren’t healthy and it shows directly by getting fat. I’ve seen first hand how obesity can cost your life and that is something which no junk food or chocolate is worth more than that.
All my life I tried all the diets you can think of, bought product as well in the hope that they make miracles, however nothing can. The toughest thing is changing your frame of mind. Whatever you’ve been thought all your life, trow it away.
1 . Change your frame of Mind
Losing weight is not about eating little, or cut off completely the things you love, but it’s all about having a balanced diet and get rid of things which are simply not good for you. The first thing which scared me is that I would be hungry and that I wouldn’t find food I like to eat. It’s not true, there is so much healthy food out there which will leave you satisfied and not feeling hungry at all.
2. Get rid of all the Sugary stuff
The only thing I cut of completely is sugary stuff, chocolate, cookies, cupcakes or whatsoever. Sugar is as bad as any drugs, it gets you addicted and it makes you want more and more until you cannot stop. So the best thing is to just say bye to it and let it go, believe me if you truly believe you are in control and that you really don’t need it in your life, you will live without it. I have been addicted to chocolate most of my life, and I decided I am better of without it.
3. Eat whatever you want in moderation
Eat whatever you want, you might think I’m crazy but yes. I believe in limiting yourself to what you eat you will end up wanting it and more. You know what’s good for you and you know what’s bad, try to eat healthy foods as much as possible and then if you crave a slice of pizza go ahead just make sure it doesn’t get consistent. It is all about moderation, little portions and frequent meals.
Many do the wrong thing to starve themselves or eat the same thing everyday. There will be a breaking point where you just want to eat all the junk you can possibly think of. Something I also suggest don’t eat at any franchise shop,
1 you have no idea what you are actually eating and 2 all they care if making money from you and not your actual health. Choose take aways that sells good healthy stuff that is cooked right then and there. Ideally cook yourself, nothing tastes better than a home cooked meal and the good think about it, is that you know what you are actually putting in your body.
I always thought exercise is for people which were born into sports and were cabable of doing it. Well it’s not obviously, it is for everyone at every size. The truth is I used to hate any sort of fitness, I love to play and dance however but other than that I wasn’t interested. Now I love going to the gym and running, it is my stress relieve and mood booster . I feel stronger and healthier and even happier.
4 Have a good support system
Ideally you take this journey on your own because I feel that is the only way you can truly succeed. Sometimes when we depend on others we tend to give up when that support is gone. Yet sometimes it is helpful to have someone that support you especially when you feel like giving up. At the moment my support system is my boyfriend, he helps me out especially when we eat out and tries not to tempt me with bad food, and that is very important for me.
That is all as for my lifestyle change and healthy suggestions. I hope you liked this post and found it useful, I wanted to share with you a different side to me and maybe inspire women out there to take care of your health.
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Lots of Love